224: One Life

Episode Summary:

Twenty years ago, I found a dead body. It changed me (in a good way) forever. I tell the story on Episode 139 or below in text form.

Who is this story For?

Are you happy?
Are you doing everything you can to create your version of happiness or success?
Is self-doubt and fear of trying holding you back?

Goal of Episode:

Hit the pause button doing a self-audit
Are you really creating the life you want or making others believe you are?
Are you doing everything in your power to live on your terms?
Be brutally honest with yourself

Episode Notes for Ep139

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The Story

Today I am going to tell you the story of when I found a dead body that made a significant impact on me and keeps me grounded when things seem tough or I’m only thinking of myself.

The Story

Missoula, Montana

About 20 years ago me and my dog drove my 1972 VW Van from Missoula, MT to Canterbury, New Hampshire where I lived with my roommate from college and his now wife in a farm house in the middle of the woods.

The Good Life

Do More (Inner Voice)

I have always had this driving voice in me that strives for greatness and my internal voice is not fueled by trying to impress others. I am self-motivated and never fully satisfied by my accomplishments or wins. You can and should do more it tells me.

Canterbury, New Hampshire

I was feeling a little lost so I moved to New Hampshire and lived with my college roommate and his now-wife. We laughed a lot and had fun. They both had ‘real’ jobs. I was going to get one, too and see if that would quiet the voice in my head that desperately wanted me to apply the 4-years of hard work at college.

Real Job?

I got a job with a corporate lawn care company which was the only job I could find that I didn’t have to dress up, they paid for gas because we drove around during the day meeting clients and looking at lawns and during busy times of the year I always had the option to work out in the field which seemed like the most fun. This job was perfect for me in many ways because it was kind of a ‘real’ job in that I had salary and benefits, but it was casual and you may have picked up on this in other episodes. I’m not into the suit and tie thing.

The Day My Life Changed Forever

One fall morning, I packed up the work truck and headed out to the coast to work on lawns all day. I was to spend the day in a small little town right on the boarder of New Hampshire and Massachusetts.

The Body

I started walking really cautiously towards the back of the chair.


Pulling in, I noticed this little machinery or welding shop across the street, so I walked over and there were a bunch of guys working and I said in a very calm voice to the one who came to tell me to get out: “I think I found a dead body across the street, but I really need someone to make sure.”

The Father

I leaned on the work truck for what felt like forever just staring. Blank inside.

Life Lessons

I drove an hour or two back to the headquarters and told them what happened and I said, I’m done for the day. In my head, I knew I was going to be done for good sooner than later.

  1. The way the father looked at me just made me realize how important it is to appreciate everything because it does not last forever and how much being a good person matters and the impact it can have on others.
  2. Little things can mean a lot.

Be Nice

Working and connecting online is only going to be more and more common, but the same rules of kindness and respect matter.

Are You Happy?

But most importantly, are you happy and are you living or trying to create the life you want? Are you living life on your own terms and making decisions for you and not those around you who you?

Do Your Thing

I am practical and strategic and never tell people to quit their job and do their thing, but I do always tell them to listen to their gut.


Freedom is doing what you know is best for you and not being afraid to own it.The point of everything is to figure out what you really, really want and put yourself on that path no matter silly or even simple it may seem.

Conclusion: Why I Told This Story

To make you stop for a second and do a gut check. Read the title of this post and episode. One Life to get it right.

The World is Changing. It’s Fair Game Right Now.

I really believe we are in a holding pattern with massive disruption about to turn things upside down, but right now everything is wide open and for the taking.

Create the Life You Want

Creating the life you want is incredibly difficult, time-consuming, scary, always changing and never certain.

Can I Help You?

I create content and help people figure things out.



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Mike Murphy

Mike Murphy

Podcast & Tech Handyman. I make tutorials and help people figure things out. Email: mike@mikemurphy.co