060: My One Man Band Needs A Backup Band.
One is the Loneliest Number
I pride myself on being a one man band. I am the stereotypical introvert where I can turn it on if I need to, but left to my own devices I prefer to be alone. I have always had a very small circle of friends and family that I am fiercely loyal and protective of, and that is all I need. I like my independence and my aloneness, but I’m struggling with starting a business and working for myself. Two of my greatest strengths are responsibility and loyalty, which translates to I’m a great worker or #2 guy. I can move mountains for others (do all the work) and never complain or ask for anything. I’m having trouble moving a paperclip working for myself. I’ve just strapped in to the entrepreneur rollercoaster and it is going to take everything I have to succeed because I thrive on accountability to others. I have not found a way to hold myself accountable to me. My accountability issue has a lot to do with my self-doubt and lack of self-worth. I fear success. I fear happiness. How stupid is that? There are parts of me that are fearless and confident and other parts that are really self-critical and deprecating. I know my mind is strong I have a lot to offer, but my self-awareness is teaching me that as much as I like being alone, it is not going to help me move forward. I need accompanists and a band behind me that can push me and motivate me to deliver my best performance day after day.
The first step is acknowledging that I need help. I need to surround myself with motivated people. I need accountability if I have a chance at succeeding on my own. I am not looking for employees or assistants, I am looking for my tribe and community. By surrounding myself with like-minded people who are getting things done, I know I will push myself to keep up. I could probably also use a coach, but the budget is tight. I know the investment is worth it, but I have to be pragmatic.
I can do this, but not alone. Neil Young and Bob Dylan were two of my favorite one man bands, but they were rarely onstage alone.
Wanna join my band?
My name is Mike Murphy, I’m a one man band and podcaster.
Learn. Create. Move Forward.
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